The #1 reason why women don’t step on stage is…
They are their WORST critic!
I mean, they will come up with all type of reasons why its not attainable for them.
These amazing women train their butts off to get close to the stage only to talk themselves out of the experience.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I was scared out of my mind after I told everyone I was competing. Damn, why did I do that? lol
But I wanted to prove to myself that I could reach a higher level of fitness…and training for a competition would get me there. Win or lose. I wanted to get there!
And I know so many other women (especially over 40) have this on their bucket list, get close, and talk themselves right off the stage.
Here are 5 ways to stop being your worst critic.
#1 Realize you are not the judge. If you are aspiring to compete, guess what? The judges don’t care what you think. They decide who lands in the top 5. So if you are over there right now saying “I’m never going to be ready because my [fill in the blank] doesn’t look like the women on stage…
You will never finish the process. Period.
#2. Celebrate how far you have come vs. obsessing over where you want to be. This right here is the most crippling for first timers. Not knowing what your final package will look like can keep you from moving forward. Creating a competition level physique happens in stages. Take the time to enjoy your success along the way which should keep you motivated to get through the next level of your training.
3. Avoid comparing yourself to other people. Most of those ladies you may be stalking on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest probably have been training longer than you. Maybe they have already competed? Either way, this isn’t their first rodeo and they have been through the process. More than likely, following a competitor program. If you are looking at their updates and finding flaws in yourself–stepping on stage will seem even more unattainable. Focus on your program, stay accountable to your goals and be realistic with YOUR progress.
4. Consult with a professional for honest feedback and a plan of action. You want to have a full assessment at various stages of your prep from someone you trust in the industry. A professional will be able to pinpoint the real issues you are having, design a program that will fix the weak areas of your body, and hold you accountable each week.
5. Know you are awesome. There has to be less than 1% of fit women who ever take it to the next level of competitive training or stepping on stage. So you are the bomb! It takes confidence in yourself to be able to train at this level, sacrifice, and subject yourself to critique by strangers who don’t know your struggle.
Remember, on stage, its you, your competition, and the judges.
Everyone else is just there to witness your greatness.
Now, no more being hard on yourself. Be HARD on the weights 🙂
The best way to reach your goal is to have a fitness coach or mentor. Someone who has done it before, made it to the top and helped other people make it too. I’d like to be your mentor if its a good fit.
Schedule a chat with me to find out exactly what it takes to reach your goals.
